Losing Religion & Finding Community

Originally posted on Trudy Metzger's Blog:

“You know you’re supposed to do it? How long will you fight it?” He looked deep into my soul. At least as deep as I would let him, and then a bit deeper, as my defenses broke. Just as quickly I did the only thing I know how to do when I’m too vulnerable, when my soul is bared, and I would rather hide and retreat; I laughed.

“I don’t know. I’ll think about it though, I promise,” I said, still laughing. His challenge, urging me to start a group/meeting for the broken and hurting, came at the end of a lengthy conversation about the brokenness of people. Particularly in churches.

Having suffered much, he has wearied of how Christians present as ‘Happy, Happy, Happy’ all the time. Because, with few exceptions, that’s what nice church people do. And say. And are. Happy, victorious, healed, and ‘fine’ Christians.

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Abusive Relationships

Originally posted on Jessie Jeanine:

Ladies, if you have to question whether or not you are in an abusive relationship… then you probably are. I’m not just talking about dating relationships either, because sometimes we have friendships that are just as controlling and demeaning. The dynamics are the same between the victim and the abuser – it doesn’t matter if you’re married, same-sex friends, or family.

If you are trapped in an abusive and manipulating cycle with someone, especially one with an overly narcissistic personality, then you need to get out – NOW! You are worth so much more than allowing yourself to be someone else’s scapegoat (I don’t care if they claim to be your BFF or not.) Yes, it may be an emotionally difficult thing to go through, but please remember…

If you survived the abuse,
you can survive the healing too.

Internal Conflicts

Personally, I wear my heart on my sleeve and…

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The missing congregation.

speakingtruthinlove:

Very good article.

Originally posted on Speakingtruthinlove's Blog:

They have been walking away for years, a few at a time from every church. Nobody pays much attention but over the years their numbers have added up. Many of our ‘pious’ Christian leaders have simply dismissed these missing congregants as rebellious sinners who have gone astray and to be sure some of them are. But many are wounded Christians who have been abused and neglected. They have been ‘food’ for the predators and they have been betrayed by the ones who were supposed to be watching over them. I was reading through Ezekiel 34 recently, I couldn’t help but notice many similarities between the ‘Shepherds’ of Israel and the ‘Christian’  leaders of today. The shepherds had spoiled the flock and abandoned them to be prey for other predators as well. Our towns, cities and countryside are full of those who have walked away in pain and confusion at what has…

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Serving from a Broken Bottle

Originally posted on Trudy Metzger's Blog:

We romanticize church, communion, and all things ‘Christian’ as hinging on a holiness born of perfection,
But it is the unrefined love of the Broken Christ, poured in messy spills, like wine from a broken bottle,
Flowing into and through broken vessels, and splashing reckless love into the world around
That ultimately spreads His grace to the world around.

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Christianity is a messy encounter between sinful humanity and Divine Love.

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There is this thought that troubles me, and one that has tumbled around in my mind, for years in a way that can’t be ignored…  Like the annoying sound of mindless, repetitious tapping that carries on until someone bursts out an exasperated ‘stop it!’ … or the faucet dripping water until you are forced to abandon what you’re doing and get up to tighten it…

My  first awareness that some people are ‘different’ came when I was about four or five years old. A girl…

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25 likes on facebook..changed everything…

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25 LIKES…9 COMMENTS…556 FRIENDS…

On August 8, 2014..I posted a video on my personal facebook page to share with the “world” that I had been sexually abused as a child.
The moment after I clicked “post”, I felt on top of the world! I had conquered my BIGGEST Fear!

Or so..I thought.

As the days went by, the euphoria lessened and I realized that my post made others uncomfortable. The small number of likes and comments crushed me and made the ugly root of rejection, fear and depression come to the surface of my heart.

As much as I told myself that I was doing my part for humanity by bringing “Awareness”. I desperately wanted everyone to SEE that “I” was a victim of sexual abuse and rape.

I thought I didnt want to be looked at differently. But actually, yes, I DO.

I want YOU to read my post…

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When Sex Offenders Confess to Clergy: Three Mistaken Beliefs

When Sex Offenders Confess to Clergy: Three Mistaken Beliefs.

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Can you hear the children screaming???

Can you hear the children screaming???.

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