It’s time to rock the boat!

We hear from church leaders who are afraid to bring up the issue of sexual abuse because they are afraid of what will happen. There might be a scandal; people may stop giving money; they may upset some of their key members….you get the idea. If our church leaders are not going to do anything about abuse then it is time that we rock the boat. I would suggest three things. 1. Go to your church leaders and politely ask them to start speaking up about abuse and have a qualified ministry come in that can both educate and train the church how to better deal with abuse. If asking doesn’t work then I would call for another meeting and insist that they take action. Members have much more power and influence than they realize. 2. I would seek out other people in the church who are like minded on this issue and organize together. This is not about being vengeful or angry, it is about doing what is decent and right. It is about obeying God’s word to protect the innocent and seek justice for the oppressed. It is about holding offenders accountable for their actions and making sure that they are never around children or the vulnerable again. If the church leaders still will not listen then I would let the rest of the congregation know your concerns and that your group will leave the church unless there is immediate action on this issue. Look for a church that is both preaching the Bible and dealing with abuse. If you find none then consider starting a new church that will do both. 3. If you donate money to Christian organizations that are not speaking out against abuse then consider sending them a letter or email asking them to deal with the issue. If they send a ‘polite’ but unwilling response, then it is time to send your money to a ministry that is dealing with abuse. We have waited long enough….it’s time to rock the boat. Join us in raising awareness and helping to train the church to deal with abuse. .

Dale Ingraham


About Dale Ingraham @ Speaking Truth In Love Ministries

We started Speaking truth in love Ministries to address the issue of sexual abuse within the faith community. My wife, Faith, is a survivor of many years of abuse by her father who was a pastor at the time. We go into churches, colleges and conferences to speak about this issue.
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