The effects of abuse are devastating in so many ways, but the offenders go their merry way.
Joan, one of our readers, submitted the following comments on how abuse works to erode one’s personhood. Many of you will identify with her description:
“Someone once asked what it felt like to lose yourself. They said: ‘Can someone please elaborate on what they think that means and how it feels? Once you lose yourself/your spirit can you ever get it back?. Maybe after you leave you find yourself again? I think I’ve lost some of what I once was.'”
This was my (Joan’s) response:
You lose interest in doing what you once enjoyed, and then start to forget what that even was…
You feel you are possibly/probably unlovable, deficient and unworthy of being loved.
You experience painful things that you would have once tried to fight against, but no longer have the will or energy to do so, and instead you desensitize, disconnect and adapt to it.
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