Every survivor of abuse will identify with those words. Saying “I am abused” means passing through a membrane into a whole new reality. In this new world everything is different, scary, confronting . . .
- “I’m one of those women — a victim of abuse!”
(I admit: I used to subconsciously look down on victims of abuse . . . until I realised I was one myself. Then I looked down on myself too, for years, until I learned to hold my head high again.)
- “I’m afraid I’ll be ostracised, judged, disbelieved, shunned . . .”
Like the surface tension on the skin of water, or the surface tension on a soap bubble, there is a tension at that membrane. Will the victim pass through it and acknowledge “Yes, I am abused.”? Or will she shy away to avoid going through into that unknown world where everything will (at first)…
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