Trademark Excuses of Molesters Begin with Blaming the Child

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victim blaming

“But…” the man in his 70’s paused…. “but, she wanted it.”

“No, sir,” I said, “she didn’t want sex.” He looked startled, as though this had never occurred to him. “How old was the child?” I asked, speaking kindly, but firmly.


“She was ten, sir. No ten-year-old wants a man almost old enough to be her grandfather to have sexual contact with them. She didn’t want to have sex with you.”

“She didn’t?” he asked, not convinced.

“No, she didn’t. Do you want to know what that little girl wanted from you?” I didn’t wait for an answer. “She wanted you to be her safe place. She trusted you. Her father was a molester and you were the one man she thought was safe. She wanted acceptance. She wanted affirmation. She wanted protection. You broke her trust and violated her heart and body.”

The man went pale, as if…

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About Dale Ingraham @ Speaking Truth In Love Ministries

We started Speaking truth in love Ministries to address the issue of sexual abuse within the faith community. My wife, Faith, is a survivor of many years of abuse by her father who was a pastor at the time. We go into churches, colleges and conferences to speak about this issue.
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