Monthly Archives: November 2015

“Christian” Enabling of the Abuser Increases His Attacks on the Victim

Originally posted on A Cry For Justice:
Recently an abuse survivor made a very insightful comment. She said that she could always tell when her abuser (a professing Christian) was receiving support from a Christian. How? He stepped up the…

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When Victims Can’t Pray, Read the Bible or Trust God

Originally posted on Trudy Metzger's Blog:
Survivors of childhood sexual abuse, and particularly those who were violated in Christian settings, often struggle to trust God. Inevitably this plays into their ability to pray or read the Bible, or even…

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Dear Victim: You are an overcomer!

Originally posted on Trudy Metzger's Blog:
As I thought about nearing the end of this commitment, I thought of how victims of abuse don’t have an ‘end’ to reach for; it’s a lifetime kind of thing, dealing with memories,…

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Thursday Thought — Victims invariably resist violence and other forms of abuse

Originally posted on A Cry For Justice:
Alongside each history of violence there runs a parallel history of prudent, determined, and often creative resistance. The manner in which victims resist depends on the unique combination of dangers and opportunities present…

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Discussion: Thoughts on Spiritual Abuse

I think that sexual, physical, emotional and spiritual abuse are all interconnected. While these different types of abuse often happen separately from one another, there is an underlying mindset that seems to breed and foster abuse in general. I think … Continue reading

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How Miles Davis misrepresented his assault of his wife Frances: a case study in the language of abusers

Originally posted on A Cry For Justice:
Here is the account which jazz musician Miles Davis gives of the first time he assaulted his wife, Frances. I loved Frances so much that for the first time in my life I found…

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“To every man an answer,” but if it’s an abused woman, let’s lance her!

Originally posted on A Cry For Justice:
“My husband is cruel and says mean things quite often and still thinks I should be sexually available. What do I do about this?”  This was the question that a woman called Erin…

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