How Abusers Use (Mis-use) Matthew 18 to Escape Church Discipline

A Cry For Justice

Recently one of our readers very wisely pointed out the following to us:

One thing that abusers in the church are very good at is using their interpretation of Matthew 18 to continue their abuse. Many of them never do anything in front of two or three witnesses. They know that if we (their victims) say anything, they would accuse us of slander and gossip. Abusers are rarely stupid enough to leave two or three witnesses. They always know what to say and who to say it to.

It is all quite true, and no doubt many of you have seen this tactic used against you.  In fact, when an abuse victim reports the abuse and the two or three are not to be found, it is the victim who ends up charged. “You are gossiping/slandering/maligning. You should not be saying any of these things if you cannot prove them with witnesses.” And, as our…

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About Dale Ingraham @ Speaking Truth In Love Ministries

We started Speaking truth in love Ministries to address the issue of sexual abuse within the faith community. My wife, Faith, is a survivor of many years of abuse by her father who was a pastor at the time. We go into churches, colleges and conferences to speak about this issue.
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