Murderous Words From a Smiling Mouth: A Common Abuser Tactic

A Cry For Justice

For there is no truth in their mouth; their inmost self is destruction; their throat is an open grave; they flatter with their tongue. (Psa 5:9)

I was reminded recently of one common characteristic of abusers (revilers is a pretty good scriptural synonym). A character in a movie was incredibly wicked and in his position of authority he issued oppressive commands constantly, using cruel sanctions to enforce them. And yet, all the while he was carrying on this evil, he had a smile on his face. More than a smile. He had a sing-songy happy-go-lucky “aren’t we all having fun” tone to his voice while simultaneously inflicting great pain and suffering on his victims.

This kind of thing certainly qualifies as a “crazy-making” tactic because it sends a dual messages that are in conflict with one another. “It looks like I am being cruel to you, but my voice says…

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About Dale Ingraham @ Speaking Truth In Love Ministries

We started Speaking truth in love Ministries to address the issue of sexual abuse within the faith community. My wife, Faith, is a survivor of many years of abuse by her father who was a pastor at the time. We go into churches, colleges and conferences to speak about this issue.
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