For there is no truth in their mouth; their inmost self is destruction; their throat is an open grave; they flatter with their tongue. (Psa 5:9)
I was reminded recently of one common characteristic of abusers (revilers is a pretty good scriptural synonym). A character in a movie was incredibly wicked and in his position of authority he issued oppressive commands constantly, using cruel sanctions to enforce them. And yet, all the while he was carrying on this evil, he had a smile on his face. More than a smile. He had a sing-songy happy-go-lucky “aren’t we all having fun” tone to his voice while simultaneously inflicting great pain and suffering on his victims.
This kind of thing certainly qualifies as a “crazy-making” tactic because it sends a dual messages that are in conflict with one another. “It looks like I am being cruel to you, but my voice says…
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