Thursday Thought — It’s not your Fault

A Cry For Justice

After understanding the mentality and tactics of abusers, would you say that there is anything a victim could do to. . . relieve the abusive situation?  Could she submit more, keep the children quieter and more obedient, mother him, keep the house more perfect, lose twenty pounds, be more seductive, cater to his every whim, console him in his tirades, and never mention her needs or desires or thoughts at all?  Would that make him stop abusing and become kind and loving?

No. The root of abuse is not in the behavior of the victim but in the mentality of the abuser.

[from Jeff Crippen’s Unholy Charade, p179]

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About Dale Ingraham @ Speaking Truth In Love Ministries

We started Speaking truth in love Ministries to address the issue of sexual abuse within the faith community. My wife, Faith, is a survivor of many years of abuse by her father who was a pastor at the time. We go into churches, colleges and conferences to speak about this issue.
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