Here are some things that pastors have said to victims of domestic abuse. We invite our readers to analyse their pastoral advice. Pick one or more of these examples and tell us what you see. What are the truths and the falsehoods? Are there any correct statements of doctrine? Faulty doctrines? Euphemisms? Misunderstandings? Wrong attribution of blame and responsibility? Does anything strike you about the tone and language the pastors have used? And if you are pointing out a wrong idea, you might like to say how you would rebut that wrong idea.
We have not made any of this up. We compiled this list from accounts from readers of this blog. Pastoral guidance is in italics. Back-story and post-advice material is in plain font. Trigger warning.
Example 1 Real change is hard and takes a great deal of hard work. Abusers have options for treatment. Your husband is taking those options – succeeding at times and failing at…
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