A Typical Letter from a Pastor to an Abuse Victim When She Leaves the Abuser

A Cry For Justice

Most of our readers have either received letters or emails or phone calls or personal “counsel” from a pastor or other church leader when they resolved to leave their abuser. The abuser of course ends up being enabled by those he has won over as his allies, many of whom are in the church if he is a professing Christian.  Here is one such letter. The names have been changed but the letter is very real. (trigger warning) Ready?

Dear Linda-

I would very much like to be able to sit down with you and John. You owe it to yourself. It is not even about what I have to say to you, but it is about you and John learning to understand one another.

The thing I have to say first is that if you will make Church and prayer a priority, it will make all the…

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About Dale Ingraham @ Speaking Truth In Love Ministries

We started Speaking truth in love Ministries to address the issue of sexual abuse within the faith community. My wife, Faith, is a survivor of many years of abuse by her father who was a pastor at the time. We go into churches, colleges and conferences to speak about this issue.
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