“I understand that you are giving _______ counsel and I want to talk to you.”
I have received that kind of message many times over the past few years. A message on our church answering machine. An email. A note. I never answer these messages because I know what they are about. They are attempts by the abuser to place doubt in my mind about the victim. Just think of it. A person actually contacts me, thinking that I am counseling their target.* The abuser actually expects that I am going to talk to him about his spouse!! Hello? I would not even be free to acknowledge that I have spoken with them or not, let alone provide any details!
Sometimes these calls are really a not-so-veiled-threat — “I know and I want you to know that I know.”
And sometimes the abuser’s attorney will even call and want me…
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