Don Hennessy says domestic abusers are like pedophiles — and there’s not much proof they’re redeemable.

A Cry For Justice

He’s your ideal man and your worst nightmare. 

Men who abuse women tend to go through a subtle but ultimately dramatic transformation that leaves their partner desperately searching for the person he was at the start of their relationship and blaming herself for losing him along the way.

“They are extremely clever people,” says Don Hennessy, relationship counsellor and former director of the [Irish] National Domestic Violence Intervention Agency.

He means cleverness at its most cruel. Abusers, Hennessey says, are conmen and brainwashers who employ tactics no different from paedophiles. Those are strong words but Hennessy believes in straight-talking. …

Hennessy says abusers will go out of their way to find a woman they can take advantage of, and believes they operate the same way as paedophiles, grooming their victim.

They start from the day they meet the prospective partner. What they are really looking for is somebody who…

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The sheep that will enter into eternal life are the ones who gave a glass of cool water to the thirsty

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You can articulate all the right theology but if it doesn’t lead you to giving a cup of cold water for the thirsty, food for the hungry, and declaring freedom for the oppressed and the captives, then all you are doing is whistling nonsense.


The One Who Wouldn’t Look Away
Hebrews 11:23-27
Ps Sam Powell

The words of the gospel are important but they should lead to actions. Jesus said love for God and love for neighbor – that’s what all of the prophets are about. On those two commandments hang all the laws and the prophets. 

Knowing all the uses of the Greek participle, or being able to speak intelligently of the Trinity, or being able to articulate the Ordo Salutis, or having memorized the catechism  — all of those things are good things. But if they don’t lead to giving a cup of cold water for the thirsty, and…

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Jimmy Hinton

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Related material … worth wrapping your head around because domestic abusers are similar to pedophiles

Jimmy Hinton being interviewed by Mary DeMuth in Nov 2016.

Jimmy is a child protection advocate, a pastor, a husband and a father. In 2011, after learning that his (pastor) father had molested young girls, Jimmy and his mom turned him in to the police. Jimmy’s father is now serving a 30-60 year sentence, and won’t be eligible for parole for 30 years. Mary DeMuth is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and a member of G.R.A.C.E.
NB: when this interview was done Jimmy was still working with Church Protect. Jimmy has since resigned from Church Protect and we at ACFJ do not endorse Church Protect because we don’t trust Jon Uhler who is now the sole leader of Church Protect.
Jimmy Hinton’s current website — we highly recommend his articles 
Jimmy Hinton on twitter

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Pt 2: Religious leaders are NOT untouchable! How we can stop them…

Trudy Metzger's Blog

“I cannot accept your canon that we are to judge Pope and King unlike other men,
with a favourable presumption that they did no wrong.
If there is any presumption it is the other way against holders of power,
increasing as the power increases.
Historic responsibility has to make up for the want of legal responsibility.
Power tends to corrupt and absolute power corrupts absolutely.”
~ John Dalberg-Acton, 1st Baron Acton ~

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Victims have long been brutalized by organized religion, and have been silenced. But God…

But God…

How I love those words. But God… He is gracious. He is kind. He is loving. He is for the brokenhearted and wounded. And He is a fierce and gentle Warrior. He has no room for abuse and victimization of the vulnerable in His Kingdom. He says He will cast down the arrogant and judge those who abuse their power. Those…

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Position, Position, Position — Why the Habitual Liar Lies

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using the example of Ben Ferguson’s interview with #AndySavage #churchtoo #silenceisnotspiritual

A political candidate was confronted by reporters regarding something she had said during a speech. She denied saying it. So the reporters showed her the tape. She watched the tape and watched herself say it. She then looked back to the reporters and they asked her if she saw what she said. She replied, “No, I didn’t say it.”

Recently Ben Ferguson, a radio show host, was confronted about whether a live radio interview he had done with pastor Andy Savage had been edited before the interview aired. Ferguson emphatically denied that the show had been edited before it was put online. In fact he said, “I never allow my interviews to be edited before we release.” (source) He denied the allegation so aggressively on twitter that he called in question the motive of his confronter. Yet, within…

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I Let My Husband Rape Me, and Here’s Why… — by Amber Barnhill

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I let him abuse me to keep him from abusing me.

The problem with fundamentalist Christian culture isn’t that it doesn’t teach rape is wrong, but that it doesn’t know what rape actually is.

Fundamentalist Christian culture taught me that if it wasn’t violent or you didn’t cry for help, that wasn’t rape, that was fornication. If it was violent and you did cry out, it was still only rape if you didn’t happen to belong to your assailant (Deut. 22:23-24). Rape was a one-time thing, a life and death situation, not something that happens with people who love you, and certainly not from your own husband. Marital rape? No such thing!

How can we blame victims for not recognizing abuse when our entire society can’t recognize it? Domestic violence is far more complex than just battery and bruises, and victims aren’t all shriveled-up, wimpy house wives. We had a family photo shoot scheduled the day after…

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4 Ways the Pain of Childhood Trauma Impacts Us as Adults

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As a fellow survivor, one of the things I always try to pass along are insights I have learned that have helped me personally. I feel as though this is how we can best help one another. Fortunately, I have had the benefit of some amazing therapists, learned from others trained specifically in trauma, and made sure to pay attention to other survivors who really knew what I had been through. The following article is another one of these from Dr. Andrea Brandt. I hope her words help you or someone you love. Please read and share!

David

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Whether you witnessed or experienced violence as a child or your caretakers emotionally or physically neglected you, when you grow up in a traumatizing environment you are likely to still show signs of that trauma as an adult.

Children make meaning out of the events they witness and the things that happen to them, and…

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