A Young Woman’s Personal Story: The Residual Effects of the Teachings by Doug Philips, Bill Gothard, and Patriarchy

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Doug Phillips, Patriarchy, Vision Forum, Stay-at-home daughters, Courtship, Quiverfull, Bill Gothard


It’s been a while since I’ve posted anything about Doug Phillips, Vision Forum, Bill Gothard, or Patriarchy teachings. A young woman who identified as “Done Running” posted her personal story and it deserves its own post. Done Running describes the residual effects of patriarchal teachings by Doug Phillips. These ideologies (stay-at-home daughters, courtship, quiverfull teachings) leave women completely dependent on their fathers for their choice in marriage partners, schooling, work, etc. It is abusive, and in my opinion, a form of emotional, if not physical kidnapping.

Young women whose parents participate in these teachings/ideologies are not allowed to have independent thought, to make their own choices for their future. The plan is to have the father pass his baton of authority over to a man he selects as her future husband. A woman is always under the authority of a…

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FAQ Highlight — If I tell people about my husband’s abusive behavior, am I gossiping?

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“When a victim starts disclosing what the abuser has been doing and asks for help, abusers and their allies commonly accuse the victim of gossiping. Abusers want their evil to remain in the darkness. Evil loves darkness. The gossip charge is made to support the cloak of secrecy and to shut victims up. If you expose the evil, you are charged with gossip and with lying.” [Barbara Roberts, from the post The false accusation of gossip ]

For more posts about gossip see our FAQ page:
 If It tell people about my husband’s abusive behavior, am I gossiping?

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Read a document of testimony at the altars of the Vatican?

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FAQ Highlight — Should a domestic abuse victim just put up with being abused?

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Many abuses victims have been told by “well-meaning” people something like this: ‘God does not give you more than you can bear. It is His will that you are in this marriage, and He has called you to suffer patiently for Him in it.’ Thus, they (abuse victims) are made to feel doubly guilty when they consider leaving their abuser. The more committed to Christ the victim is, the more she suffers the pangs of guilt due to this “helpful” advice. [Jeff Crippen]

Because many victims are given this erroneous advice, we have compiled posts that discuss what Scriptures says about meritorious suffering, fleeing from persecution, and when is suffering God’s will under the FAQ: “Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake” … so should I just put up with being abused? 

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ACFJ is Five Years Old Today — Here is Our First Post from 2012

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Today is the 5th anniversary of A Cry for Justice and this post was the very first one we published – Diotrephes and The Evangelical Church. Originally the blog was started simply for the purpose of letting people know that the book, A Cry for Justice – How the Evil of Domestic Abuse Hides in Your Church– had been written and was available. Then you all began to comment and ask questions…and we just kept publishing articles. And now over 1700 articles and 43,000 comments later — here we are. There is no question that the Lord has done this because none of us planned it, that’s for certain!

May the Lord bless and guide and protect each one of you in this coming new year, leading the oppressed into freedom and dealing out His justice to the wicked, especially those evil ones hiding in local churches.

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Diotrephes…

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Break the Silence

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img_1173We are no longer hiding our light, our shadow is the darkened image of who we used to be. We don’t live underneath that “image” anymore. We’ve seen the light. We have shone light on every area that was covered by darkness. We are breaking our silence. http://www.rockpaperscissorsfoundation.org #Breakthesilence #Rockpaperscissorsfoundation

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Personal Story: Wife of Pedophile Shares How Her Husband Manipulated Her from Seeing the Truth

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Pedophile, Wife of Pedophile, Sex Abuse


Today I am posting a personal story from a woman named Cindy who left a comment yesterday on the 3-1/2-year-old article, Being Married to a Pedophile: A Wife Speaks Out and Offers Hope to Other Wives of Pedophiles, which has continued to reach women who are searching for support.

Her comment was posted at 4AM on the West Coast the day after Christmas. It got me wondering . . . maybe Cindy lives on the East Coast and was posting this in the quiet hours of 1AM after a pleasant Christmas day (the story ends on a positive note). What struck me was that she posted this around the time where families are gathered for the holidays. Perhaps she, too, was reminiscing of Christmases past, of what it was like when their family appeared to be whole and happy. But obviously she also thought about the…

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