Finding a Voice for Everyone in 2016

Broken Until Spoken

According to the research the number one effective means good health is to share your story. Tell your story. Talk. Talk. Talk. Write. Write. Write. Doesn’t matter if it is through art, music, poet…

Source: Finding a Voice for Everyone in 2015

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Pride as Fuel for Abuse in the Church

A Cry For Justice

It is actually reported that there is sexual immorality among you, and of a kind that is not tolerated even among pagans, for a man has his father’s wife. And you are arrogant! Ought you not rather to mourn? Let him who has done this be removed from among you. For though absent in body, I am present in spirit; and as if present, I have already pronounced judgment on the one who did such a thing. (1Cor 5:1-3)

I was blown away the other day. Seems like this happens pretty regularly to me as I receive reports of gross, open, rank evil being not only tolerated but virtually invited into local churches. The latest report was that of a church appointing a man to the office of elder, having made NO effort to look into his background. This man had been put out of the last church he was…

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Christians Need to Get “Pity” Right and Stop Pitying the Wicked While Refusing Pity to the Innocent

A Cry For Justice

Your eye shall not pity him, but you shall purge the guilt of innocent blood from Israel, so that it may be well with you. (Deu 19:13)

They close their hearts to pity; with their mouths they speak arrogantly. (Psalm 17:10)

Let there be none to extend kindness to him, nor any to pity his fatherless children! (Psalm 109:12)

Therefore, as I live, declares the Lord GOD, surely, because you have defiled my sanctuary with all your detestable things and with all your abominations, therefore I will withdraw. My eye will not spare, and I will have no pity. (Eze 5:11)

Moved with pity, he stretched out his hand and touched him and said to him, “I will; be clean.” (Mar 1:41)

If you have studied or experienced first hand the tactics of the abuser, you already know that one of his favorite ploys is to play the victim and…

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Ministry Update

Ministry update


As you know we have been praying that God will provide funding for us to do our ministry full time and that He will open doors for us to have more speaking opportunities. There has been a lot of interest from people around the country wanting us to come and speak. This may be the first year that we will have to turn people down or try to schedule them for next year. I still pastor our church in Campbell, NY so for now we only have a certain number of weeks that we can be away for our ministry. Here is what we have so far.


Feb. 19th and 20th. We did a conference in Bellona, NY February 19th and 20th among the Mennonite community there. We had 55 attendees and filled the fire hall where we were meeting. They have already scheduled us for February 17th and 18th next year and they are making arrangements for the conference to be at a larger venue. We are going to be having several prayer meetings through this year with the Mennonite families as we prepare for the next conference.


March 8th. Then we had a table at the annual pastors conference at Davis College in Johnson City, NY on March 8th. We made some good contacts there and we hope to get some more speaking opportunities from there.


April 10th. We are speaking at a church in Laceyville, PA.  April 10th, about our ministry and how God can bring healing to those who are hurting from abuse.


April 21st. Then on April 21st I will be speaking to a group of pastors about our ministry and how we can better prevent abuse in our churches.


April 28th and 29th. Then we are attending the Bivona conference, that deals with sexual abuse, in Rochester, NY on April 28th and 29th.


May 14th. Then we are scheduled to do a conference at the Arrowhead bookstore in Johnson City, NY on May 14th. They have a large conference room that will work well.


June 23rd. Then on June 23rd we head west and meet with pastor Tim Bos from Michigan to discuss our ministry and how abuse is impacting the church.


June 24th and 25th. On the 24th and 25th we are planning to attend the SNAP conference in Chicago where we will be meeting with my fellow board members from MKSN US and I am hoping that we will be meeting one of our own board members, Vickie Pang, who lives there in Chicago. So we are praying this will be a time of strengthening current relationships and making many new ones as well. From there we travel to Montana where we will be dropping off Dot Thomas, who is on our executive board, for a short term missions trip. She cooks for a few days at a special needs camp there and has done so for the past 7 years.


July 8th and 9th. Then we head to Colorado Springs where we will be doing a conference on July 8th and 9th. Joy Ryder, who is on our advisory board, is working on putting this together. Joy’s husband, Jeff, is going to be speaking on the topic of how abuse impacts intimacy in Marriage.


July 15th and 16th. From there we will be traveling to Farmington, MO where we are doing a conference at Max and Katy Hardy’s church on July 15th and 16th.


July 22nd and 23rd. Then it is back in NY where we are doing a conference July 22nd and 23rd at Watson Homestead in the Corning, NY area.


August. So far in the month of August we have a pastor in the Orlando, Florida area who would like us to do a conference as well, but no date has been set.


Future. We have also had inquiries from people in Washington, Oklahoma, South Carolina and Ohio. Lisa Bishop, who is on our advisory board, is thinking about doing another conference in her area in Virginia.


So there is a lot to be praying about and praising the Lord for. We have many funding ideas. We are thinking about doing a funding drive to get 200 families to support us at $25 a month. That would enable us to be full time. We would still need to raise travel expenses and so on, but that would provide a solid base on which to build. Our website is , Our book is ‘Tear Down This Wall of Silence’. My cell number is (607) 542-0316


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The Cruelty of the Abuser — A Cry For Justice

For their rock is not as our Rock; our enemies are by themselves. For their vine comes from the vine of Sodom and from the fields of Gomorrah; their grapes are grapes of poison; their clusters are bitter; their wine is the poison of serpents and the cruel venom of asps. (Deut 32:31-33) Whoever is […]

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She hurts, I hurt: A few words about Vicarious Traumatisation

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Whether you are a crisis counsellor working with survivors full time, a friend of someone who has been traumatised, or are simply overwhelmed by the mass of terrible realities that filter through your newsfeed every day, you are vulnerable to vicarious traumatisation (VT).

What is Vicarious Traumatisation?

VT is a stress reaction experienced by those who have not directly (personally) experienced a traumatic event, but have exposure to a traumatic incident through the accounts of others. In other words, people suffering from VT have been indirectly exposed to a very threatening situation which has caused a shift in the way that they experience themselves and the world around them[i]. This causes them to experience the world as an overwhelmingly harmful and dangerous place, and experience others as threatening and untrustworthy. Although not all people exposed to such traumatic accounts develop VT, it is common in highly violent contexts

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Thursday Thought — Truth is Not Always ‘Nice’ but it is Necessary

A Cry For Justice

I have written something to the church, but Diotrephes, who likes to put himself first, does not acknowledge our authority.  So if I come, I will bring up what he is doing, talking wicked nonsense against us.  And not content with that, he refuses to welcome brothers, and also stops those who want to and puts them out of the church.  (John 1:9-10 ESV)

Alexander the coppersmith did me great harm; the Lord will repay him according to his deeds.  Beware of hm yourself, for he strongly opposed our message.  (2 Timothy 4:14-15 ESV)

Let me make note of one false notion that wicked, abusive men make use of to perpetrate their façade and masquerade of being righteous, godly, fine, upstanding Christians and fathers and husbands. It is this – “If you cannot say something nice about someone, you must not say anything at all.” Now, let me challenge you…

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