The Bible has one law for unintentional sin, and another law for intentional sin

A Cry For Justice

The Bible makes a distinction between unintentional sin and intentional sin. This is important when we consider how we, as Christians, are to respond to domestic abusers.

The distinction is set out in the Law which Moses gave to the people of Israel. Numbers 15:22-31, NKJ –

Laws Concerning Unintentional Sin

If you sin unintentionally, and do not observe all these commandments which the Lord has spoken to Moses— all that the Lord has commanded you by the hand of Moses, from the day the Lord gave commandment and onward throughout your generations— then it will be, if it is unintentionally committed, without the knowledge of the congregation, that the whole congregation shall offer one young bull as a burnt offering, as a sweet aroma to the Lord, with its grain offering and its drink offering, according to the ordinance, and one kid of the goats as a sin offering. So the priest shall make atonement for the whole congregation…

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5. Chris Moles sometimes endorses the abuser’s narrative

A Cry For Justice

When bystanders don’t call out victim-blaming language, they endorse it.

Chris Moles uses some wording that can endorse the abuser’s narrative. I will give three examples of this.

Chris’s language permits the abuser to evade responsibility for his wrong choices.

Chris wrote a blog post aimed at abusive men – ‘Telling The Truth To Yourself’ (T*). In that post he used some language that in my view permits the abuser to hold himself at arm’s length from his wrong choices. It is subtle; see if you can pick up the three places where Chris did this in the following paragraph:

Our pride convinces us that wicked behavior is sometimes necessary to maintain control or that malicious intent is justified when we feel wronged. This attitude may have led you to physically harm your partner or to call her ugly names. Perhaps you’ve thrown things across the room or punched…

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Gaslighting & the Unraveling…

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A promise made is a promise to be kept.
And God knows I’d rather forget.

It has been a few weeks since June 8… that fateful day in the present situation with attempting to expose an offender, and challenge the way the case was handled. Soon after that day, and after my ‘apology blog’, I pulled down the blogs I had written that opened up the crazy can of worms… or snakes… that led to that day in the first place.

I pulled all the blogs after discovering my apology was not warranted. I wrote it in sincerity, having been made to believe that I was wrong about the offender’s repentance and the way in which his public ‘confession’ came about. But I also wrote it in absolute confusion because the evidence I had didn’t line up with what I was made to believe. And I pulled them because I…

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Bill Hybels, the Willow Creek “System,” and Why the Women Needed to Speak Publicly

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Bill Hybels, Clergy Sexual Misconduct, Willow Creek Church

Bill Hybels, Willow Creek, Clergy Sexual Misconduct


Scot McKnight at Jesus Creed wrote a very important article about the Bill Hybels/Willow Creek sexual misconduct scandal. This is a very important article that summarizes the system that was in place which allowed Bill Hybels to not only go unchecked, but to be protected and defended. You can apply this kind of corrupt system to many others where perpetrators are defended and protected. Simply replace the names/locations with another renegade high-controlling pastor who abuses (sexually or spiritually), and victims are silenced and their characters maligned.

The important take-home here is to note the universal pattern that keeps corrupt systems corrupt, and what it takes to stop this system so that truth can be revealed, and hopefully bring restoration to both victims and the church.

The women who spoke out are the heroes at Willow Creek. They were trashed, called all…

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Failure to Report Sexual Abuse – Who Cares?

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This is the final installment of our 4-week guest blog appearance at Rachel Grant Coaching.

I want to thank Rachel for the opportunity to share my thoughts and concerns on these specific issues surrounding childhood sexual abuse.

Today we will talk about the abhorrent laws (or lack thereof) that let mandatory reports off the hook for failing to report sexual abuse.

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Satan doesn’t destroy churches and ministries….God does.

The other day I read a post by someone who was cautioning abuse survivors and advocates to be careful that they are not of a demonic spirit when they were speaking out against church leaders who protect offenders and do little to help victims. This person was concerned that Satan might be using these survivors and advocates to help to destroy ministries.

I have news for this person and all those who are of this same opinion. If a ministry is destroyed, it will be God who destroys it and not Satan. It will be because of the evil that is perpetrated and protected in these ministries that God destroys them….not because the oppressed are crying out.

That doesn’t mean that Satan doesn’t do everything he can to bring down ministries, he does. But the way he does it is the same way he corrupted the garden of Eden….he entices mankind to sin. It is the sexual predator that carries out Satan’s desire. It is the enablers and protectors of offenders that see to that this evil never gets exposed or dealt with.

Consider a few passages of scripture.

Matthew 16:18
And I say also unto thee, That thou art Peter, and upon this rock I will build my church; and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it.

Jesus makes it clear that the gates of hell can not prevail against the church. Satan has no power against the church in the same way that he had no power against Adam and Eve. The one thing he could do was to temp them to sin. Satan tempted, Adam and Eve sinned but it was God who destroyed. God brought a curse upon all creation because of Adam and Eve’s sin.

The same pattern is true today in regards to the church. Satan has found something that people are willing to sell their soul for….sexual sin. He specializes in using children and vulnerable adults, because they are easy prey. It is the offenders and their protectors that are evil….not the wounded and oppressed who cry out. Why can’t so many Christians see what is so obvious?

When the Jews were slaves in Egypt, were they evil for crying out in their pain and suffering? When their baby boys were being slaughtered, were they the ones that were wrong for crying out in their agony and grief? Is it the abuse victims who are wrong for crying out? Is wrong for them to ask for justice? Let’s consider another passage. Revelation 6:9-11

9 And when he had opened the fifth seal, I saw under the altar the souls of them that were slain for the word of God, and for the testimony which they held:

10 And they cried with a loud voice, saying, How long, O Lord, holy and true, dost thou not judge and avenge our blood on them that dwell on the earth?

11 And white robes were given unto every one of them; and it was said unto them, that they should rest yet for a little season, until their fellowservants also and their brethren, that should be killed as they were, should be fulfilled.

Notice that God does not rebuke them for asking for justice or even vengeance. He reassures them that one day it will come.

So many Christians are uncomfortable with the cries of the victims of abuse but they have little or no discomfort allowing an abuser to attend their church, where they have easy access to victims. It makes no sense.

Let’s go back to the thought that it will be God who destroys the churches or ministries and not Satan. Revelation 2

Unto the angel of the church of Ephesus write; These things saith he that holdeth the seven stars in his right hand, who walketh in the midst of the seven golden candlesticks;

2 I know thy works, and thy labour, and thy patience, and how thou canst not bear them which are evil: and thou hast tried them which say they are apostles, and are not, and hast found them liars:

3 And hast borne, and hast patience, and for my name’s sake hast laboured, and hast not fainted.

4 Nevertheless I have somewhat against thee, because thou hast left thy first love.

5 Remember therefore from whence thou art fallen, and repent, and do the first works; or else I will come unto thee quickly, and will remove thy candlestick out of his place, except thou repent.

Jesus tells this church that because they had lost their first love that He was going to come and remove their candlestick. How much more will Jesus hold churches accountable who protect those who rape and molest children!

The church today is in big trouble and Satan will be the least of their concerns, because it will be God who is coming with a drawn sword in His hand.

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Tullian Tchividjian’s Book Which Was Taken out of Publication Due to Clergy Sexual Misconduct to be Republished

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